Sometimes relationships get so messed up that they come to a deadlock. No communication works, until one steps down and stops agonizing the other person.
Why do we want a constant in our spouses feelings for us? Why are we so drunk on the idea of love that we always want them to give us their whole attention? Maybe, because we give them ours and because men, in this region of the world, can’t bear a woman who has a life of her own. But, even loyal, devoted, dutiful wives like us need a break at times. There are times when I’m not so obsessed with him, when so much is happening around me that I forget about him for a moment, when I don’t miss him for days, in fact, I hardly miss him at all. Then why do I have such great expectations from him? I think, that it is in us to punish people for their honesty. We can’t hear the truth and living in reality is definitely not what we want, at such a young age. We’re drunk on the idea of love and love stories, love poems just mess us up more. Ingraining this in our minds that falling in love is all about unicorns and roses. What movies fail to tell us that sustaining love is what’s the real task ahead. Sustaining love demands sacrifice, it gives you pain at times but it also gives you a bunch of roses. It may not be as addicting as the love they show in movies, but it’s a stronger kind of love, which grows and you grow with it. This man is not perfect, but he makes you perfect by giving you that security that you always craved for in a relationship. He may crib, act like a child, is careless and may lash out at you when you tell him he’s wrong, but he also craves for your attention and your love. And this is what’s worth all the sacrifice for.
I believe, when one becomes emotionally secure and stops fearing that the person they love might leave them, is when they set them free and start understanding why the other person can’t be obsessed by them at all times.